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Follow-up Note from Anuar Zhumabayev

On 17th of May, Astana Toastmasters Club held an additional meeting at Nazarbayev University Research and Innovation Center. New venue – new possibilities.

The meeting was structured in a usual way – with three sessions: one, dedicated to prepared speeches, second, to the topic of the meeting, which was “Make love, not War” and the evaluation session. The audience consisted of members, soon-to-be members and a couple of experienced guests and first-timers. Due to the new location and traffic on the left bank, some of role-takers were late, but at 19:45 we were ready to launch the meeting.

After a small introduction of the meeting format and crack laughing between couple guys from the audience to relieve tiredness after a long working day, we proceeded with the Prepared Speeches Session. First speaker, Zhantuar Yertayev, incorporated a lot of “show on the body” approach in his “The Two Dialogues” presentation about how people interacted with each other by their body language, adding Yerzhan and Tana to his speech, as “supplemental instruments”. I, myself, in my presentation spoke a little about coaching session and performed a role-play with Anuar Unaibekov. Our final speaker – Olessya Akimenko told us the original story about traveling adventures, as her “Moral of the story” project. All speakers received votes for the “Best prepared speaker” nomination and the winner with one-vote advantage was Zhantuar Yertayev.

The table topic session was led by Yerzhan Omirkhanov, who prepared provoking questions, which were mostly related to the emotional side of love. Impromptu speakers tried to share their stories about their relationship with love, as their lives go on, and we heard six interesting takes on “the secret crush”, “love at the first sight” and “the essence of the feeling itself”. The winner took home a “Twix” chocolate and the second place was awarded with “Snickers”. Two chocolate bars in one pack went to Tansholpan Seisembayeva, who shared the story about crushes and how we go from there.

Evaluation session was led by Olessya Akimenko and all speech evaluators were out of time in their respective time slots, though all of them provided useful suggestions to speakers, trying to be constructive and positive. The best evaluator award went to me for “not that judgmental” take on speech of our third prepared speaker.

At the end of the meeting, we almost forgot to vote for our new member – Aidana Koptileuova, but, fortunately, we didn’t. Aidana shared her desire to become a strong part of our club and invited all of us to the “Night at the Museum” event. And after that, we adjourned the meeting and went outside at approximately 21:15, where Yerzhan was amazed that light from the sun was still there. Summer is coming, folks! Let’s enjoy it!

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Best Prepared Speaker: The Heart Is The Strongest Muscle by Zhantuar Yertayev

Best Prepared Speech (14 May 2016)

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My mother always told me ‘Float like an iceberg, sting like a thrown iceberg!’. But sometimes an icy heart just needs a warm smile. Madam Toastmaster, fellow members and welcome guests have you ever fallen in love? Today I will tell you a very personal story that I still keep in my heart even though the stars changed many times since that period. Many years have passed, but I still do remember that day like it was yesterday, the day when love came into my heart.

I’m on my graduation ceremony glowing in my suit staring at my proud parents and happy teachers but there is someone I miss… But first of all, let me take you back to the time when I did not know this someone who became very important for me.

It was October’s early morning. Rainy weather did not promise anything bright to happen that day. A bunch of sleepy, creepy and weepy people staying at the bus stop dressed in black as if they were going to funeral. Me personally dressed in black and wondering where that big white bus could be. But suddenly something caught my eye and I froze for a moment. A pair of green emerald shoes… It dissonated so hard with the atmosphere so my eyes continued their journey up to the top and found a very pretty face. I said ‘Wow! She challenges the reality with her appearance’. It felt like she heard my inner voice and responded me with a broad smile and an eye contact. I saw the whole new and enormously king-sized universe in her big brown eyes. I said ‘Whatever, we only live once’ and made my approach. I made her laugh, got her number, took her out and we started dating.

Guys, have you ever dated a beautiful girl? Put them all together and you will get my girl. I have already mentioned her eyes big as the full moon, brown as the warm aroma of coffee where you could melt like a chocolate forever. Her smile was so warm that you felt like a cat stretching itself under the gorgeous sun. Her hair was blacker than the darkest night and when I touched it I felt like the silk scarf was stroking my fingers. Her skin was white as the first January snow. Her breast guys… three. Her belly was flat as the ice rink that was just filled. Her waist and hips reminded me a guitar shape – the perfect instrument of love. Her legs were long, straight and beautiful. I enjoyed touching them. She moved like the caravel cutting her way through the tides of the ocean. People turned when she walked into the room. I have been already wearing glasses that time but she was all that I could see. And it was not only her beauty that I adored.

We had countless nights not only full of passion but full of heart to heart dialogues. We talked about policy, philosophy, society, the Matrix, the behavior, the mindset. I have never had such feeling, my heart trembled every time I held her hand because I could feel her heart. It took my breath away when I kissed her, when I cuddled her trembeling body in my strong arms. Have you ever felt so accepted and free with the opposite gender? Well I did. My first and ever given to a woman bouquet of red flowers is that what associates with her. Her kindness, her ringing laugh, her generous, pure and childish soul that forgave me everything. That’s what I miss. She always taught me that death is not sad. The sad thing is most people don’t live at all. She was a teacher, a lover and a friend.

Just before our breakup we had this conversation

– Will you marry me?

– I’m too young to marry you my darling

– But I’m 23 already and I need to build my life

– But darling! I’m only 18! I have the whole life in front of me

I’m on my graduation ceremony glowing in my suit staring at my proud parents and happy teachers but there is someone I miss. I miss my lady in emerald shoes. It was too late when I understood that I love her. That day she left me saying that I’m not a man enough, that I will never be serious, that I’m not ready for the responsibility… And you know what guys? She was right

Fairytales and love stories have a small difference. Fairytales have a sad beginning and a happy ending, but love stories are opposite: happy beginning and a sad ending . But don’t be too upset my friends because the darker the night, the brighter the stars. I’ve sailed to other countries, met many beautiful women, had my victories and defeats on the battlefield of love. I returned back home and heard a lot of advice that you need to lift metal, you need animal protein or at least vegan protein but guys the one thing that you really need to love and be loved is your heart. Remember, my friends, the heart is the strongest muscle! Madam Toastmaster.

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Recipe for Success: Hey You! by Yerlan Meirbek

Hey you!

You, who is reading this post.

I was asked to write my success story for getting CC (competent communicator) and CL (competent leadership) certificates; because VP PR Damira said that I had to do it!

Actually, I finished my CC in record 5 months, which means that I never lost the chance to give a speech.

We have strict rules In Astana Toastmasters Club, regarding speeches. Namely each member can give only 2 speeches per month, and we have more than 60 members and only 30-35 speakers’ spots each month. I’m sure you all know the high level of competition in booking speaker’s spots every time VP Education opens the Role Chart.

So, it was short background information for potential new members. But my target is current members, especially those who are one or two speeches away from completing CC. Those who stopped giving speeches after their 8th or 9th projects. Yes, I’m talking about you, Aikorkem Nurzhanova, Assylan Akimbayev, Aliya Zhumabayeva and others. I want to ask you: “Why are you delaying?” I’ve heard many complaints that it was difficult to choose a topic for the next speech. You know what? Sometimes I chose topics for my previous speeches just in 3 hours before the meeting. Now let’s stop here, you will say that the quality of the speech will be terrible and your speech evaluator will criticize you. To that I want to say this: “Practice makes perfect”, you should be ready for criticism, and you should be ready for challenges. Every step forward is difficult. You can finish last 2 or 3 projects. You have all resources for doing so. Just prove yourself that you can finish what you have started.

If you want to succeed in life, you should finish every project and every deal!

Just do it!

Watch the following video –

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Recipe for Success: Being Thankful with Anuar Unaybekov

Last Saturday, 26 March of 2016, our dearest member of ATC, Anuar Unaybekov has completed his CC manual. Anuar is a sunshine of our club, whenever I see him, he smiles and radiates joy and happiness! If you haven’t met him before, you can feel his kindness and passion for ATC in this message where Anuar thanks all of our members on a way to comleting CC:

Dear Toastmasters,

I’m very sorry guys. It is really a long read, but you can skip some parts and read only those, where you see your names. ))

In this message I want to share with you what I’ve learned during this just over half-a-year journey and from whom I’ve learned all these things.

Actually, I’m thankful to all of the members of our club, because literally everyone somehow inspired me and everyone had a part in my improvement as a speaker. However, I want to highlight some of them, particularly.

The 18th of July, 2015 was the day, for which I’m very thankful to God, because after that day Astana Toastmasters Club had become one of the parts of my life. Hope that DAULET remembers that day, because he was the first person from ATC with whom I got acquainted with. He kindly answered all the questions that I asked, and now I’m honored to say that he is one of my closest friends from my beloved club. Daulet was near me till my 10th speech and even mentored me on the last project from CC manual. I’ve learned a lot from him, but the most important is how to be enthusiastic about whatever I do. Thank you Daulet, you are just great person, thank you!

The second person from whom I learned a lot is my namesake, ANUAR ZHUMABAYEV, the most sincere member of our club. (It’s really a great honor to have such a namesake.) ))) Anuar praised me when I did well and asked “Anuar, what happened?” when I did not so well. The latter was more often. ))) I don’t know why, but it actually mattered to Anuar that I was growing and I hope everyone felt it as I did. This is the point that I want to learn from Anuar, I hope that I’ve already started to build this character in myself. Thank you Anuar very much, I’m very glad that I’m acquainted with you!

The next is KORLAN BEKTASSOVA , the soul of our glorious club. Recently, I wrote to our whatsapp chat that when I prepared to this 10th project, I imagined that Korlan was in the room. I wrote it sincerely, because I really couldn’t imagine our club without her. Regarding her duties, she does it very responsibly and I definitely should learn a lot from her. Sometimes Korlan may appear as a person with kinda complex temper, but I know that it’s because she loves our club more than we all love it together. Thank you Korlan, we also love you very much!

SAMAT and ASSEM PANOVA. Firstly, I’m very grateful to both of you for starting this club. With regards to what I’ve learned from this wonderful couple is that dreams can really come true, and I believe that it was their dream, when they started this club, to hug each other as tightly as they could on the 10th speech of the boy, who 6 years ago they even didn’t know anything about. Moreover, I admire that Samat doesn’t live his life just for himself, but he tries to contribute to the society, to the country he lives in, for example, persuading us to be active on elections and showing his example of a fighter with corruption in this wonderful country. Besides, he is a great envy of all the men of our planet, because he has such a wonderful wife, who also believes in him and in all the crazy ideas that he bears in his mind. Girls, learn from Assem, she is a great example of a perfect wife. Thank you guys, I’m really proud to know you!

YERLAN MEIRBEK. During this time Yerlan has become for me as an elder brother who drives me to keep up with him, but I’m not able to keep such a high speed as you see. )) He is like a tank that doesn’t stop before anything. He just smiles and goes ahead. This is the character that I want to build in myself. Yerlan even made me become a bit physically stronger. (Remember that challenge?) ))) Yerlan gives me a lot of advice and he is one of those rare people who really cares about me and apparently not only about me. It’s all about my bro Yerlan, thank you, you are the best of the best of the best!

OLESYA AKIMENKO, YERMURAT NURGOZHA,ASSET OMIRZHANOV,KANAT BAZARALY and AZAMAT KHAMZA – people, who were always open to help me and even to share their valuable time, some of them spent hours listening to my boring drafts of speeches and trying to make them better. Thank you for those beautiful moments, guys, you did really a lot for me! Thank you for your support! P.S. Yerma and Azamat we are dying to see you as soon as possible.

The other people who inspired me with their dedication to the job they do are DAMIRA KULAKHMETOVA and AIGERIM SANAYEVA. These girls give really all their passion to our club, and it is what inspires me. For this relatively short period of time they did just unbelievable work in promoting our club and running NAIZA TOASTMASTERS project, respectively. Likewise, thanks to all the people who help them to do it so well: AIGERIM AKILTAYEVA, SOGDIANA AKHMETOVA, ASSEL MUSSINA, DAULET SABYR, BANU IBRAGIM, FARIZA MAKHAY and the other guys who contribute them. You all did just great job, thank you!

Yet, I want to express my gratitude to the following people who helped me, gave me a lot of energy, and somehow believed in me through this CC track:
AIDANA KENESBAYEVA, INDIRA KYILYBAYEVA, ASSIYA BABAYEVA, AIZHAN OSPANOVA, ELMIRA TULBASSIYEVA, DINARA KYDYRNIYAZOVA, AIGERIM KOSHEKEN, YENLIK NURASHEVA, ASSEL STAMBEKOVA, TANA SEISEMBAYEVA, SHOLPAN KENESKHANOVA, SOGDIANA AKHMETOVA, YERNAR ZHYLKAIDAROV, ANARA ISSAYEVA, BANU IBRAGIM, ZHANNA KUSSAINOVA, NUNI ASKER and YERZHAN OMIRKHANOV. I really felt your support from your words and from your sincere eyes guys, thank you a lot!!!

Finally, here is the list of the people who I want to get to know closer than I do, and I hope that I will. Some of them are just new members, while the others are experienced ones, but anyway, they all are very interesting and special people. They also somehow played their roles in my personal improvement during these beautiful 7 month-period:
AIDAR ABRAYEV, AIGERIM AKILTAYEVA, ANARA SERIKBAYEVA, CHINGIZ MATAYEV, BAIRAM ORAZOV, DARMEN AMANBAYEV, AIKORKEM NURZHANOVA, MARZHAN AMANZHOLOVA, ELMIRA BALTABAYEVA, YERLAN DURMAGAMBETOV, SEROB MANUKYAN, NURLAN APUSHEV, DZHAMILYA SERIKBAYEVA, MYRZKHAN OMARBAYEV, ASSET ABUOV, YURA KIM, DIANA NURTLESSOVA, ZHAKSYBEK NURTLESSOV, ZHANARA ZHAKSYLYKOVA, AIBEK BEKENOV, ANARA BADYRLENOVA, ASSYLAN AKIMBAYEV, AZAMAT ZHUNUSSOV, AZAMAT MAKHSUDOV and FARIZA MAKHAY.

Overall, my dear friends, dear toastmasters, as you see, all of you took your own part in this astonishing period of my life. I’m looking forward to those moments when I congratulate you with achieving those goals that you set and I’m also starving to make my first steps as an advanced speaker. Hope I can count on your support as I could throughout my unforgettable CC road. Thank you all guys!!!

Best regards,
Anuar Unaibekov (with your support, guys, already CC)

 

Below, you can also watch his 10th project!

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Talk like TED or What ATC speakers already do (Part 1)

In one of her speech evaluations, Assel Stambekova mentioned a book she recommended to read to master the art of public speaking, “Talk Like TED” by Carmine Gallo. I followed her advice and thank her for this recommendation.

 

“Talk Like TED” is a book about emotional, novel and memorable presentations and how to give them. The author referred to many TED talks that excelled the art of effective communication. Having watched most examples of exceptional speeches, I thought to myself that our members do possess and masterfully apply these techniques in their speeches. In this post I will go through the 9 chapters of the book with a brief description and my own examples.

 

The most popular TED presentations share nine common elements that can be grouped in three parts: emotional – they touch our heart, novel – they teach something new, and memorable – they present content in ways that’s hard to forget.

 

EMOTIONAL

Chapter 1: Unleash the master within

This chapter is about passion in speeches and that sharing and expressing it is what makes your audience listen to you. “Passion is not a passing interest or even a hobby. A passion is something that is intensely meaningful and core to your identity.”

 

I see many ATC members express their passion in presentations. A recent example is of Indira Kyilybayeva when she talked about her project Pro Bono, a service that lets professionals provide services to those who are unable to afford them. In her speech, Indira showed her passion in being able to offer unpaid help to other people by doing something she was best at. Her message was so clear and powerful that motivated other people to join the project.

 

Chapter 2: Master the art of storytelling

The power of stories is indisputable. Stories help to appeal to audience, make a point, deliver a message and persuade.

“Persuasion occurs when three components are represented: ethos, logos and pathos. Ethos is credibility. We tend to agree with people whom we respect for their achievements, title, experience, etc. Logos is the means of persuasion through logic, data, and statistics. Pathos is the act of appealing to emotions.”

 

The best storyteller that I know in ATC is Korlan Bektassova. I love to hear stories she shares and extremely liked her speeches from Storytelling manual. The most memorable of them was a story about King Arthur and his search for an answer to “What do women want?” The story was very intriguing, was beautifully performed and had an unexpected twist. No wonder on that day Korlan was awarded as the best prepared speaker.

 

Chapter 3: Have a Conversation

This chapter was the most eye-opening for me and it changed the way I prepare to speech presentations now. It says that to appear natural and be authentic I should practice for hours, not particularly memorizing every word that I am going to say, but giving my speech as often as I could. Practice it in front of people, change content if it’s needed depending of their reaction, record it, watch it back. It might sound like a hell of preparation but I believe it will pay off.

 

I realized that almost every time I prepared for my speech I did my work in half: worked on my content, but lacked its rehearsal. The author compares it to “having a ferrari, without knowing how to ride it”. That is what my mentor also commented on when I presented my last project, very emotional for me that at one point I struggled to handle my emotions, thus, felt nervous and exceeded my time limit.

 

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Chapter 4: Teach me something new

Some presentations that I watched had a message that contradicted or questioned the conventional wisdom. Those were the speeches that I liked the most, those that taught me something new. According to the author, the information can be not that new, but “packaged differently, or offers a fresh and novel way to solve an old problem”.

 

The example that I want to give is not of a prepared speech, but from a table topic session, when speakers answer a question related to one theme in 1-2 minute time frame. The theme of that meeting was related to book reading. I don’t remember the question itself, but remember how the speaker, Asset Omirzhanov, caught everyone’s attention by saying that he thought reading was not that important. He then later explained his view by talking about meditation and I’m sure if he had time he would masterfully make a whole speech on this topic.

 

Chapter 5: Deliver jaw-dropping moments

Every presentation has or should have a jaw-dropping moment, a shocking, impressive, or surprising moment. It is “so moving and memorable, it grabs the listener’s attention and is remembered long after the presentation is over”.

 

Azamat Makhsudov in his second project talked about schools and how he would make a class on joggling to teach children a lesson of learning. Azamat used some prop: he brought tennis balls and joggled while giving his speech. At one point at his presentation it looked like he dropped the ball because he didn’t play that well and we already started to feel sorry for him. But after a while the audience realized it was made intentionally to show how it might be hard at first to make something work and learn a new skill. I remember this moment very clearly, because it was an “emotionally charged moment”.
These jaw-dropping moments can be some shocking statistics, props, a video, a rhetorical device or personal stories so impactful that everyone remembers it long after your presentation.

 

End of Part 1

by Damira Kulakhmetova